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thoughts on 38
calvin/hobbes yellow hug
Years ago at a friend's wedding we were hanging out after the rehearsal and one of the groomsmen was giving me a back rub.  He got to my shoulders and asked how long they had been that tight, I told him pretty much since college (around five years).  He responded something along the lines of 'that's what frustrates me as a massage therapist, people spend years tying themselves into knots and then expect me to magically make it go away in 90 minutes.  If it took years to knot up, it may take an equal number of years to unknot.'  What I took away from that at the time was that I'd always have tight shoulder muscles, and that not everything could change.

Now I think what he said just makes good sense, and change is always possible.  Time and effort (even unintentional ones) will work on you, and if you don't like where things are at it will take time and effort to reverse.  Maybe I've learned patience in the past decade, or it's just a part of getting older - the realization that things are worth working for even if the ultimate goal is nowhere in sight.

So I look at what I've become in 38 years and mostly I like me, a lot.  I see where time has paid off, and a few places where time has worn ruts that I would really rather get out of.  And that's okay.  I've got years left ahead of me to change direction, try new things, wear in new ruts I'm more comfortable with.  38 years down, who knows how many left to go.

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Great post, and Happy Birthday (there are more greetings for you in the Green Room, by the way!)

Thanks, I had been pondering this for a bit and today seemed like the right day to share.

And thanks for even more happy wishes; I just made my way through the green room answering things there.

What, you are not 38, shut up.

Happy birthday!

I mostly like you a lot too! I would like you more if I saw you ever.

I am totally 38. Weird right?

I think it's totally fair that you would like me more if we could ever be in the same room, I'll work on that.

Thanks for the good wishes. Also, I love that icon.

Happy Birthday! You have a wonderful attitude about life. And it's so true about how we can't expect years of stress to disappear right away. All the more reason you should indulge in massages, manicures and pedicures to pamper yourself!

Thanks for the good wishes! Yeah, regular massages are starting to inch over into necessity for me (if still a luxurious one). And pampering oneself is always a good idea.

This was an incredibly thoughtfull and lovely post.

Happy Birthday!

Aw, thanks. I'd been ruminating on the theme a week or so ago and then saved it to write today because that made sense in my head.

Thanks for the good wishes.

Hmm...see that's funny because a lot of the whole "knots" issue is retraining your nervous system, which actually can be done, to a degree, in 90 minutes. It may not last because the old habit will still exist and a new one needs to be developed, but there are loads of movement techniques one could do that could blow your mind at how much easier some use of muscle can be. Massage can't do it in 90 minutes, but other things can...

Not to diminish your actual point, which is very fine and good. I just think that groomsman made his remark from a very limited perspective.

Huh, I didn't know that. I may have to explore other things.

Though I do know that the amount better I feel after a massage is certainly exponentially higher than after just sitting for an hour. He was young and overstating, I think.


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